The Strategic Retreat

And I or And me

I often hear people say “(person) and I” when it should be “(person) and me”.

I hear people doing this wrong all the damn time. Mainly I think it’s because people learn, incorrectly, that “and I” is the proper way so they correct themselves when they shouldn’t.

If I want to say that Nadya and I are going to the store that’s what I should say. “Nadya and I are going to the store”. *But* if I want to ask if you want to go to the store with Nadya and me, that’s correct. “Do you want to go to store with Nadya and me?”

It’s actually incredibly easy: Ignore the additional person or people and see how you would phrase it. You wouldn’t say “Do you want to go to the store with I”. So you wouldn’t say it that way if you add an additional subject to your sentence.

If it’s “me” by yourself, it’s “me” with an extra person. If it’s “I” by your self, it’s “I” with an extra person. Simple.

About Jeff Penman

Jeff is a classically underemployed philosopher and MBA student, Singapore trivia champion, seeker of happiness, truth and the perfect sandwich. He once survived for 4 months in a lean-to on the side of college housing with only a fishing license.